How children can enrich your spiritual path

How children can enrich your spiritual path

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How children can enrich your spiritual path.

The beginning of my spiritual journey was one spent in solitude, I loved creating my own temple space within my living room, I meditated within the forest at the back of my home, I travelled globally escaping the reality of the ‘normal world’, learning the landscapes of my inner world, and this served me well as a single woman who was desperately trying to find herself.

 

Now, 2.5 years into a committed relationship and co-parenting I find myself reflecting on how children an enrich your spiritual path. I personally have experienced a heightened state of appreciation, wonder and inspiration from watching my partners son navigate the world in his own unique way. Becoming a bonus parent has been one of the most challenging yet rewarding experiences of my life. Teaching a child how to take responsibility for themselves whilst facing the fears of having responsibility of another human has been quite sobering!

 

Having a child in my home has grounded and rooted me into the realities of relationships and connected me into deeper states of joy. My inner child is constantly inspired by Theo’s artistic imagination, he reminds me to tap into the innocence of taking pleasure from the simplest of experiences and to stop taking life so seriously. Because of him I wish to show up as the best version of myself within my relationship, which means learning to forgive myself and each other when we “lose our shit.”

 

I’ve learnt to slow right down and be patient when Theo is sharing his own wisdom on the meaning of things he sees in nature, his perspective on past lives, manifestation and what happens when we die. In him I see a little shaman who is an old soul, connected to the subtle energies of this world. I enjoy being mindful with his curiosity and seeing life through his eyes.

 

Children constantly teach us the marvels of the world around us, to be grateful for the daily mircles, and come back to meaningful playfulness. They remind us to step outside the mindless wheel of worry and to take time to be present, to connect and listen.

 

 

Ways to cultivate your child’s spiritual curiosity

 

Be patient, when your child is asking their cosmic questions go down the rabbit hole with them until they feel complete in your conversation.

 

Teach them to be kind to other and stand up for what they believe in.

 

By introducing spiritual practices and rituals when they are young, such as lighting candles or incantations (prayers) – your child will view them as a natural part of life, and you’ll have a creative influence over them before others supress’ it within them.

 

This can be incorporated into ordinary actions and words. When you get out of bed in the morning, you can fling your arms up in the air and say out loud, “Today is going to be a good day”, At bedtime, you can say good night by sharing something you appreciate about each other and express gratitude for something you received during the day.

 

Try to limit the amount of time they watch tv, scroll on their phones and play video games, encourage your child to play outside in nature as much as possible. Teach them to respect nature by picking up their rubbish and thanking the tree’s.

 

Play guided meditations and relaxation music to help them sleep at night.

 

Above all make it fun, sing, dance, get dirty in the mud, make up stories, read stories together, paint pictures and let your imaginations run wild!

 

Let your child lead, you might discover something you never thought of before.

Talk to other parents. Reach out to your fellow Brood members and find other families who share your passion and values.

 

Ashleigh Guthrie

Ashleigh Guthrie is a spiritual mentor and wellness practitioner. She lives with her partner in Prestwich, Manchester and is a bonus parent to Theo, age 11. She especially enjoys working with women who are interested in mapping their menstrual cycles for the benefit of their business growth, cultivating conscious relationships and women’s circles.

Connect with her on Instagram and send her a DM o book a free discovery call. @ashleighguthrie01

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The benefits of Positive Self Talk

The benefits of Positive Self Talk

I believe that now more than ever it is vital that we learn how to communicate with our inner self in a more positive way. In times of change and uncertainty for some this can be difficult, but it is possible, with consistency and commitment to transform the inner critic to your biggest cheerleader.

I’d like to invite you for a moment to take a moment for yourself and reflect upon your morning, before you open your eyes, are you aware of the first thing that you say to yourself? When you are triggered do you know how to talk to yourself with compassion and love or are you dropping into a nagging Nancy, spiralling into a pool of frustration, guilt and shame which leads to people pleasing and perfectionism.

You’re not alone, we’ve all been there. This article will help you to bring more awareness towards your inner dialog, turn self-judgement into a more compassionate internal voice which ultimately reduces stress and anxiety and evokes a more confident version of yourself.

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Shaming Self-Talk

Our patterns of self-shaming are all too often put downs – we focus on the belief that feeds into a story that say’s we’re ‘not good enough’ or ‘not a good enough person or ‘can’t even get this right’. Our brains are conditioned to remember pain over pleasure, so we hold on to the memory of failure and how that makes us a “bad person” forgetting that really, we can’t get it wrong and that we are perfectly imperfect.

Positive Self-Talk

Positive self-talk is a road map to success. When we show ourselves compassion and begin to understand yourself for who you are and what you’ve been through you open yourself up to limitless possibilities and miracles. To celebrate all that you are offers deep self-love and acceptance, which ultimately opens the door to authentic expression and creative connection with others.

 

Three benefits of speaking more compassionately to yourself

1. Helps to Reduce Stress

By slowing everything down when stress arises you can begin to understand what you need in order to feel safe, seen and understood. At the start this can feel confusing and messy but learning to listen to what is arising and responding with compassion when you have been triggered into worry and anxiety can create space to then take action and make healthier choices next time.

 

2. Helps to Boost Confidence and Resilience

Regular positive self-talk can help you to feel more confident in the face of achieving your desires, as you begin to value yourself and trust that you will show up for yourself rather than self abandon, and when problems do arise, you know you are capable of problem solving and loving yourself that little bit more in the process.

3. Helps Build Better Relationships

Practicing gratitude and appreciation with your partner each day can create a deeper intimacy and trust. Taking the time to celebrate your success’ helps boost your self esteem and when we share that joy and celebrate other we can create a powerful and positive community which brings in an abundance of creative impactful energy. 

 

Practical tools

Check-In with Your Emotions Regularly

Positive self-talk takes practice.

When challenges do arise, make sure you check in with how you’re feeling. Bring it back with some positive phrases, dance, move your body, meditate, breathe.

Come back to the compassionate self and as this part what it needs.

 

Boundaries Are Your Best Friend

Not everyone wants the best for us. Notice the people in your life, who is serving your highest feel-good vibe and who is draining your energy. It’s okay to create boundaries and remove these people, even if they are family or long-term friends.

Focus on surrounding yourself with people who light you up, make you feel good and encourage you to speak more positive about yourself.

 

Love yourself practice

Write a list of 10 things that you love about yourself….

If there’s one thing, I want you to take away from this article, it’s that creating new healthy habits can take time, so please be patient with yourself. Reach out to a friend and ask them to help hold you accountable through the challenges and celebrate the wins.

I hope you found this article helpful. Don’t forget to join me for my next Online Full Moon Ceremony in which I share more self-awareness techniques and spiritual insight. Link below.

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You might also like to join my Facebook community for Women who are wanting to deepen their spiritual practices and meet like-minded people. at  https://www.facebook.com/groups/612248250194973

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4 Simple ways to reset when you’re feeling burnt out and overwhelmed

4 Simple ways to reset when you’re feeling burnt out and overwhelmed

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ONE OF MY FAVOURITE PIECES OF ADVICE FOR CREATIVE PRODUCTIVITY IS, “IF YOUR MIND IS EMPTY READ, IF YOUR MIND IS FULL WRITE.” 

KNOWING WHEN TO REST AND WHEN TO ACT THROUGHOUT THE DIFFERENT CYCLES OF THE MONTH AND SEASONS HAS CREATED MORE JOY AND CONNECTION WITHIN MYSELF, MY RELATIONSHIPS AND BUSINESS.

HERE ARE FOUR WAYS TO INCREASE YOUR SELF AWARENESS AND TRANSFORM YOUR HABITS OF STRESS INTO A STRONG SELF-CARE PRACTICE

Mentally

Ever felt like your brain to mouth co-ordination has disappeared? Then you know what it’s like to need mental rest, especially leading up to your time of the month or before launching a big work project.

You may realise you’ve been distracting yourself more by scrolling or sending a barely comprehensible voice note. Perhaps you notice your thoughts starting to turn negative, judging everything you do, or sabotaging and procrastination kicks in.  

The next time you need a mental break, turn off your screens and take a few moments to ground yourself outside, get your feet on the earth and take some deep breaths. I’ve found that creating a 10-30minute morning practice of meditation, gentle movement and writing down 5 things I’m grateful for really helps to set me up for the day.

Physically 

Physical burnout and overwhelm can feel like walking through quicksand. When we ignore the warning signs of overwhelm, the body and nervous system can become overly sensitive to loud noises and all you want is your bed, not the greatest when you have a business to run and little ones needing your attention.

The most healing form of physical rest is sleep and I love bedtime rituals, consider going to bed 30 minutes earlier, or taking a hot bath with lavender and magnesium salts. 

Catching up on physical rest can also mean stepping away from your desk regularly and taking deep breaths during the workday, eating a balanced died or perhaps booking in a restorative yoga class to give your body some time to stretch. Knowing what your body needs during the different hormonal stages of the month may help you to feel more refreshed and energised, for those family gatherings and work projects.

Spiritually

Sometimes it can feel like we are doing things alone. So, for me, spiritual rest & reset can look like finding people who are in my tribe — I enjoy attending women’s circles, safe spaces where I know I will be held, looked after and nourished at a soul level.

For you, social rest might mean catching up with a friend who knows you inside and out. Or perhaps it’s just taking a night off from socialising and reconnecting with yourself in a way that feels good.

At times we just need to remember the things that brought us joy as a child, like painting, riding horses, smelling a flower, eating a strawberry. Come back to the things that feel like home.

Emotionally

Think of how you feel after a you’ve over given and put everyone else’s needs before your own — after a while you may begin to feel resentful, exhausted, and confused as to why you have less patience to engage with family and more easily frustrated. That’s why it’s important to pay attention to the signals from your emotional body and have awareness of when you tank is almost full.

A favourite tool of mine when I find myself spiralling is to put a timer on and tip out how you’re feeling. This can look like journaling or speaking to someone who is available and capable of validating and listening to your needs.

That could mean scheduling regular therapy sessions or finding people with whom you can be authentically yourself with and perhaps offer you a hug.

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