I believe that now more than ever it is vital that we learn how to communicate with our inner self in a more positive way. In times of change and uncertainty for some this can be difficult, but it is possible, with consistency and commitment to transform the inner critic to your biggest cheerleader.

I’d like to invite you for a moment to take a moment for yourself and reflect upon your morning, before you open your eyes, are you aware of the first thing that you say to yourself? When you are triggered do you know how to talk to yourself with compassion and love or are you dropping into a nagging Nancy, spiralling into a pool of frustration, guilt and shame which leads to people pleasing and perfectionism.

You’re not alone, we’ve all been there. This article will help you to bring more awareness towards your inner dialog, turn self-judgement into a more compassionate internal voice which ultimately reduces stress and anxiety and evokes a more confident version of yourself.


Shaming Self-Talk

Our patterns of self-shaming are all too often put downs – we focus on the belief that feeds into a story that say’s we’re ‘not good enough’ or ‘not a good enough person or ‘can’t even get this right’. Our brains are conditioned to remember pain over pleasure, so we hold on to the memory of failure and how that makes us a “bad person” forgetting that really, we can’t get it wrong and that we are perfectly imperfect.

Positive Self-Talk

Positive self-talk is a road map to success. When we show ourselves compassion and begin to understand yourself for who you are and what you’ve been through you open yourself up to limitless possibilities and miracles. To celebrate all that you are offers deep self-love and acceptance, which ultimately opens the door to authentic expression and creative connection with others.


Three benefits of speaking more compassionately to yourself

1. Helps to Reduce Stress

By slowing everything down when stress arises you can begin to understand what you need in order to feel safe, seen and understood. At the start this can feel confusing and messy but learning to listen to what is arising and responding with compassion when you have been triggered into worry and anxiety can create space to then take action and make healthier choices next time.


2. Helps to Boost Confidence and Resilience

Regular positive self-talk can help you to feel more confident in the face of achieving your desires, as you begin to value yourself and trust that you will show up for yourself rather than self abandon, and when problems do arise, you know you are capable of problem solving and loving yourself that little bit more in the process.

3. Helps Build Better Relationships

Practicing gratitude and appreciation with your partner each day can create a deeper intimacy and trust. Taking the time to celebrate your success’ helps boost your self esteem and when we share that joy and celebrate other we can create a powerful and positive community which brings in an abundance of creative impactful energy. 


Practical tools

Check-In with Your Emotions Regularly

Positive self-talk takes practice.

When challenges do arise, make sure you check in with how you’re feeling. Bring it back with some positive phrases, dance, move your body, meditate, breathe.

Come back to the compassionate self and as this part what it needs.


Boundaries Are Your Best Friend

Not everyone wants the best for us. Notice the people in your life, who is serving your highest feel-good vibe and who is draining your energy. It’s okay to create boundaries and remove these people, even if they are family or long-term friends.

Focus on surrounding yourself with people who light you up, make you feel good and encourage you to speak more positive about yourself.


Love yourself practice

Write a list of 10 things that you love about yourself….

If there’s one thing, I want you to take away from this article, it’s that creating new healthy habits can take time, so please be patient with yourself. Reach out to a friend and ask them to help hold you accountable through the challenges and celebrate the wins.

I hope you found this article helpful. Don’t forget to join me for my next Online Full Moon Ceremony in which I share more self-awareness techniques and spiritual insight. Link below.


You might also like to join my Facebook community for Women who are wanting to deepen their spiritual practices and meet like-minded people. at  https://www.facebook.com/groups/612248250194973

Written by Ashleigh Guthrie


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